How do you cultivate meekness? How should one handle anger biblically? Here is a biblical pattern to follow:
Recognize it and confess sin
Proverbs 28:13 says, “He who confesses his sin will prosper!” Some Christians go through their entire lives handling anger sinfully. They say things to people that really hurt them. They try to keep their hands on the control of life and don’t show true humility. They never deal with it because they won’t or don’t recognize it as a problem.
When you got angry or upset the last time did you promote the plan of God in the way that you got angry? Or did you just get angry because some right or convenience of yours was denied?
See God in the trial
When something happens to you that gets you boiling or irritates you, you need to remember that a sovereign God allowed this to happen. It must be good. Do you do that? Job was in excruciating pain of soul and body and he said, “I know that my Redeemer lives!”
Some people waste so much energy complaining about something that they never accomplish much. “I can’t believe I have all these papers to write for class or my parents make me do these chores.” Why not just use your energy to get them all done early!” If you see God in the trial, you will be less apt to gripe about things.
And what about trials that you can do nothing about? Direct your energy in prayer to God, direct it in thanksgiving, or toward handling the problem right, or in ministering to others in a similar condition. Joseph did, “You meant it for evil, but God meant it for good.” “Count it a joy when you fall into trials.” “God is working all things together for your good.”
Make room for God’s wrath
God says, “Vengeance is mine, I will repay!” Don’t spend all your life trying to get revenge. Let God take care of others! Don’t get mad! Don’t get even! Don’t do it. Others may mean it for evil, but God means it for your good.
Return good for what you think is evil
This is what Romans 12:12-21 is all about. You will never overcome evil with evil. You must overcome evil with good.
Communicate to solve problems
Ephesians 4:15 teaches that we are to speak the truth in love. Loving communication will flow out from a meek spirit. Ephesians 4:29 commands us not to let any corrupting talk come out of our mouth. Meekness will result in speech that strives to build the other person up, speech that gives grace, and speech that is appropriate to the situation. Before you respond to an offense with anger, ask these questions about what you will say: Is it necessary? Is it true? Is it kind?
Act to solve your part in the problem
Ephesians 4:31-32 reminds us that we are not to react, but to act. Verse 31 lists six negative reactions that display sinful anger. But verse 32 tells us about acting to solve our problems biblically: be kind, be tenderhearted, and forgive! Impossible you say? Well, don’t forgive that Christ forgave you of a much greater offense against Him than whatever offense someone else has given you. So put off “bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, slander, and malice.”
Sinful anger grieves the Holy Spirit, it distorts God’s glory, and it doesn’t not imitate our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. I trust God will use these posts to help us all cultivate meekness and handle anger biblically.
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