Archive for the ‘anger’ Category

“In your anger do not sin”: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.  Eph. 4:26-27

Do not be quickly provoked in your spirit, for anger resides in the lap of fools. Eccl. 7:9

My dear brothers, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry, for man’s anger does not bring about the righteous life that God desiresJames 1:19-20

You must rid yourselves of all such things as these: anger, rage, malice, slander, and filthy language from your lipsCol. 3:8

A Prayer for Stewarding Our Anger by Scotty Smith to which I say, “Amen!”

Dear Lord Jesus, these Scriptures are so convicting. Help me steward my anger. It’s always been a confusing, immobilizing, damaging emotion to me, because I’ve been on the destructive end of anger and rage. I remember the fear, the confusion, the shame, and the ambivalence I felt when I was the target of this important, but lethal emotion. I don’t wish such a crushing of the spirit on anyone.

But I’m just as quick to own the ways my anger has also harmed people I love. Though I don’t get loud and large, I can my passive aggressive anger has never resulted in anything good, anything I’m proud of. I praise you for your kindness, mercy and grace for me, Lord Jesus.

As I meditate on these Scriptures, I realize you’re not telling me never to be angry, but to be careful not to sin in my anger. Jesus, help me be angry at the right time, for the right reasons, in the right way. Give me fire in the face of injustice, but wisdom in executing an appropriate response.

Lord Jesus, only you can melt the icy tension in my heart—when I get provoked or don’t process things well. Only you can change my rigidity into playfulness. Only you can redirect the wasted energy of my anger into patience and loving-kindness. Only you can replace my idol of control with a greater worship of you and submission to your purposes.

Right now, Lord Jesus, I throw open every door and window of my heart. Come in and establish multiple footholds of mercy, grace, and compassion. I abandon myself to your beauty and bounty today. So very Amen I pray, in your peerless and priceless name.

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                   Some trust in chariots and some in horses, but we trust in the name of the Lord our God. Ps. 20:7

     Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. Prov. 3:5-6

     The Lord is good, a refuge in times of trouble. He cares for those who trust in him. Nahum 1:7

A prayer by Scotty Smith     

Dear heavenly Father, though it’s not a fun thing, it’s a good thing—it’s an essential thing, even afreeing thing to realize how little control we have over people, places and things.

For only by acknowledging the limits of our humanity will we rest in the beauty of your sovereignty; only by giving up trying to control our circumstances will we come to rejoice in your providences; only by accepting messes as a part of life will we turn to your mercies in the midst of strife; only by crying “Uncle!” will we learn to cry “Abba!”

Father, as this day begins, (and continues), settle our restless hearts and relax our desperate grip on stories, hearts and situations for which your grace alone is sufficient. We turn from our version of “horses and chariots,” and acknowledge that our trust is in you.

By the truth of the gospel, the pledge of your faithfulness and the power of your Spirit, we trust you with people, for whom we have great concerns—even fear and anger. May “faith expressing itself in love” (Gal. 5:6) trump our penchant for “worry expressing itself through meddling.”

We trust you with our unresolved conflicts and broken relational stories. In Jesus, you have commissioned us as ambassadors of reconciliation (2 Cor. 5:20) and called us to be peacemakers (Matt. 5:9). Father, we need special grace, for sometimes the emotional toll and toil of messy relationships makes us want to join Jonah on a ship to Tarshish.

Lastly, Father, we trust you with our health (it often feels so fragile); our wealth (because it’s so fleeting and deceptive), our plans (for you alone know the future); and our heart (for it is yours, though we often pawn it off).

It’s because of your great and grace-full love for us in Jesus that we make our prayer, acknowledge our fears, and surrender our trust. So very Amen we pray, in Jesus’ safe and strong name.

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“Is the father that can’t control his temper with his teenage son hopelessly paralyzed in the quicksand of his own emotional immaturity? Can the woman whose father left her and her mother at the age of six have non-explosive interactions with men when she’s disappointed? Is there a future for the angry man who can’t seem to maintain a steady job because of his quick temper?

The answer is yes,” Dwayne Bond responds.

There is hope for dealing with anger!  The hope is found in the Word of God which contains real help on this issue that affects many.  Read Dwayne’s article “Is There Any Hope for Dealing with Anger?”  where he discusses some biblical principles regarding anger, notes some of the more common sources of anger and arms us with several verses that will help us counteract anger in our lives.

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Uprooting anger

Are you an angry person?  Are your children angry? Are you living with an angry spouse?  How can we handle anger biblically?

Here are some free on-line resources and some other biblically based books, booklets and DVDs to help you with this very pervasive problem.

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Help for the angry!

Tim Challies shares three fundamental principles that the Bible emphasizes about anger.

Lou Priolo suggests 11 questions for self-examination about your anger (although it would be helpful to involve others as well).

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What’s at the heart of sinful anger?

David Powlison deals with the question of sinful anger–“a toxic sin which corrodes marriages, churches, and workplaces. No relationship is immune from its destruction. And for many Christians the battle against anger is a prominent battlefront in the fight for personal holiness”, as Tony Reinke points out.  Watch, grow and learn.

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3 steps in dealing with anger

Know your anger.  Know your place.  Know your lesson.

Find out what Joe Thorn means by these three steps which he took in his own struggle against anger.

Before my conversion I was a very angry young man. After my conversion I sort of expected the anger issue to be settled. However, I found that anger was such a deeply rooted sin in my heart that it wasn’t going to be pulled out easily. At first I worked on the fruit sins, the symptoms of my problem. I learned to hold my tongue (at least some of the time), but anger continued to burn inside of me. I was only able to lay the gospel axe to the roots of this poisonous tree as God gave me clarity in three areas. If you struggle with anger, I hope these principles will help you answer the anger in your own heart.

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