The call to be a servant-leader is tough. No one gets it all right, and certainly no one gets most of it right overnight. It’s a life plan — a way of living you grow into with practice and time. Here are 25 suggestions, men, for being a servant-leader in your home.
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Nathan Bingham writes a strong exhortation to fathers. I need this reminder regularly. Probably all dads do:
There’s a crime wave going on in your neighborhood—possibly even in your own home. It’s a crime wave that won’t make it to the nightly news, but not because it isn’t serious, for it scars generations and teaches them to commit the same crime.
Who are the criminals? Absent fathers.
I’m not talking about full-time absent fathers, those never home at all. I hope that’s a rarity. I’m talking about your average dad, the one who commits this crime most mornings, during dinner, and especially during the hour before little ones go to bed.
It’s a crime wave, and I’ve been an offender. You might be one too.
You’re guilty when you skip breakfast with the family to prepare for that early morning meeting, when you’re distant at the dinner table because you’re resolving an issue at work in a long email conversation on your smartphone, and when you forfeit a healthy family night-time ritual because you’ve got something important to do—like write a blog post.
I’ve succumb. Have you?
Keep reading “Fathers, Stop Stealing from Your Children” for more help and hope. Then prioritize your life and spend some time with your children, fathers!
Gloria Furman shares about the unashamed masculinity she sees in her husband and the Bible celebrates in its description of true manhood. An excerpt:
The masculinity I appreciate as a wife is of far greater value than wealth-earning power. It’s a masculinity that is unashamed of the gospel which is the power of God (Romans 1:16).
The unashamed masculinity I enjoy in my home leaves a legacy that is more enduring than prolific fertility. It’s masculinity that fervently loves others from a heart that has been born again, born not of seed which is perishable, but imperishable. True masculinity is reborn through the living and abiding word of God.
The unashamed masculinity I love to follow in my home is far more impressive than macho pride. It’s masculinity that is willing to take the painful shrapnel in the battle against his own sin, rather than run from sin and hide in the comfort of silence. It is a masculinity that willingly exposes its life to the iron-sharpening-iron of open and honest male accountability relationships.
The other day I found a letter I wrote to our son when he turned 19 years old. I teared up a bit as I read and reflected on that letter as I thanked God for Ian.
Then, a few days ago, I saw this letter that a dad wrote to his 16-year-old and which he published with his son’s permission. What a model of faithful fatherly wisdom and leadership. I’d encourage you to read what Rick (here) wrote to Luke and use it as a model for writing your son or daughter a letter on his/her birthday this year.
The title is a compilation of two recent posts over at Desiring God that feature short quotes from John Piper. Read and apply the call to strong men and theologically sound women!
This is a call to stoop down and to take the responsibility to be a leader—a servant leader in the various ways that are appropriate to every different relationship to women. It’s a call to us men,
- that we should take the risk of getting egg on our faces;
- that we should pray like we’ve never prayed for help in this tremendous responsibility;
- that we should be in the Word more than we ever have been to know what God expects of us;
- that we should plan things more than we do, and be intentional and thoughtful and less carried along by the mood of the moment;
- that we should be disciplined and ordered in our lives;
- that we should be tender-hearted and sensitive;
- that we should take the initiative to make sure that there is a time and a place to talk to her about what needs to be talked about—this “her” could be a friend, a date, a colleague, a wife, a sister;
- that we should be ready to lay down our lives in discharging this responsibility to be the leaders God is calling us to be.
Excerpted from Manhood and Womanhood Before Sin (1989).
Wimpy theology makes wimpy women. That’s my assumption that I bring to this evening. Wimpy theology simply does not give a woman a God that is big enough, strong enough, wise enough, and good enough to handle the realities of life in away that magnifies the infinite worth of Jesus Christ.
Wimpy theology is plagued by woman-centeredness and man-centeredness. Wimpy theology doesn’t have the granite foundation of God’s sovereignty or the solid steel structure of a great God-centered purpose for all things.
Stream or download the entire message delivered at the 2008 True Woman Conference.
Crawford Loritts reflects on five lessons he learned from his father on how to speak so that your children take your words seriously:
- Don’t waste words. Don’t add a lot of apologies or unnecessary detail that make you look timid.
- Don’t threaten.
- Be clear about expectations. When you tell someone, especially a child, how to behave or what to do, make sure you both are very clear about what you expect.
- Be clear about consequences, particularly if your expectations involve an area with which that child has struggled in the past.
- Take clear, decisive action. . . .
Say what you mean and back up your words with action. It’s a testimony to your integrity and an example your children will carry with them throughout their lives.