Gregg Harris, who spoke at the Rebelution conference, gave an outstanding message on parenting at Covenant LIfe Church last Sunday and my family and I listened to it the last couple of days. His text was Psalm 127 which speaks about the children of a godly man. Children are both a heritage from the Lord, not a headache to raise. Properly raised and equipped, children are like arrows in the hand of warrior. Gregg takes a good deal of time to develop this point, speaking about the various parts of an arrow and what they represent.
Parents are the bow that releases the arrow. For a season the arrow must have a tight relationship with the bow string and the arrow must be pulled back even while the arrow might be thinking, “I was made to go forward not backward.” But that discipline and restraint is necessary so that the arrow is well aimed and launched. But once the arrow is launched no one admires the bow, but rather watches and applauds when the arrow meets the target.
Gregg urged parents to spend more time with their children. He said our children don’t need to spend more time with us, rather we parents need to spend more time with our children and impart to them wisdom. We are to talk with them all the time and include them in every area of our life that is possible. He urged us to train them till we like being with them. Many parents won’t take their children with them to important places because they fear they will be embarrassed by their behavior for their children are undisciplined and need to be bribed to act appropriately. They fear that children will be bored with what adults do, but children need to “walk with the wise” and not spend their time with foolishe people.
Yes, parents we are all busy, but Gregg implores us to not waste our kids. Everything that God has given parents to do is compatible with our other callings. So we should not view our kids as competing against our work obligations, ministry in the local church, or our other relationships in life. Rather we should bring our children alongside us so that one day they will be a tremendous blessing in the community or as the psalmist says “in the gate” of the city.
Make an investment in the lives of your children today! Don’t waste your kids.
I ENCOURAGE ALL PARENTS AND GRANDPARENTS TO LISTEN TO THIS MESSAGE IF POSSIBLE.
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